With the birth of a new year, so too comes new possibilities. With many already putting their goals into action, it is easy to start to feel a little deflated if you have had a false start. If this is you, the biggest reason why you might be finding it difficult to get momentum is because you are not clear on your vision. Meaning, you don’t know what the heck you are doing with your life!?
Don’t worry, you are not alone. And getting clear might be easier than you think. Simply action these 5 exercises to gain clarity around you life vision … and let the good times role.
1. Understand your values
Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values ~ Dalai Lama
Your values are kind of like your navigation system. Knowing what your values are, help to keep you on track. They guide you into creating a life that is congruent with your true self and are a great tool in helping you take action on things that are important to you. They essential help keep you on the right path.
Without knowing your values, it is easy to create a vision that doesn’t serve your highest purpose … and often, that can lead an unfulfilling life.
Understanding your value system can often be challenging, and it is important to know that they can change over time.
Some of the more common values include:
Core Values List
Authenticity, Achievement, Adventure, Authority, Autonomy, Balance, Beauty, Boldness, Compassion, Challenge, Citizenship, Community, Competency, Contribution, Creativity, Curiosity, Determination, Fairness, Faith, Fame, Friendships, Family, Fun, Growth, Happiness, Honesty, Humor, Influence, Inner Harmony, Justice, Kindness, Knowledge, Leadership, Learning, Love, Loyalty, Meaningful Work, Openness, Optimism, Peace, Pleasure, Poise, Popularity, Recognition, Religion, Reputation, Respect, Responsibility, Security, Self-Respect, Service, Spirituality, Stability, Success, Status, Trustworthiness, Wealth, Wisdom
To better understand yours, you can ask yourself the following questions…
“How to you spend most of your extra money?”
“What do you like to do in your spare time?”
“What shows do you like to watch/books do you like to read? Do they have a common theme?”
“What would you miss the most if it was taken away from you?”
“What is one of your favourite memories?”
Notice if there are common themes in your answers. This may give you a clue as to what your values may be.
2. Challenge your limiting beliefs
From the age of 0 – 7 most of your beliefs about the world have been formed. At this age we look for meaning in almost everything because we are naturally inquisitive. It is at this time that our experiences of the world mold our beliefs.
A belief is something we consider to be a fact; we assume it to be true. We use our beliefs to understand and navigate this world. Once formed, our beliefs run on autopilot in our subconscious mind. They tend to shape our behavior, thoughts and emotions.
Limiting beliefs are those beliefs which constrain us in some way. Just by believing them, we tend to think, say and do things that are congruent with these beliefs. In doing so we inhibit our greatest potential.
By identifying your limiting beliefs you can choose to let go of them .. and fly to greater heights.
Some of the more common limiting beliefs include:
“I don’t have enough money”
“I am too old/young”
“I am not smart/funny/pretty/knowledgeable/good enough”
“I don’t have the motivation”
Once you have identified what some of your limiting beliefs may be, you can CHOOSE to create a vision that is uninhibited.
3. Ask yourself important questions
Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right. ~ Henry Ford
When creating your vision, it important to ask yourself the following questions. Find yourself a quiet space to think deeply about them before answering. This is also great time to tap into your intuition.
“What would I do if I couldn’t fail?”
“What do I want to be remembered for?”
“What do I want people to say about me when I die?”
“Does this vision serve my highest values?”
“Is this vision something I truly want, or something society tells me I should want?”
4. Write down 3 separate scenarios for you life
In a world where the possibilities are endless, it is easy to get FOMO. One of the hardest things about creating a vision is the limiting belief that if we choose one path, we forfeit the other.
Another road block in creating a vision is that we like the ‘idea’ of something, however, in reality it may not bring us happiness, or isn’t where our values lie.
A helpful exercise to do is construct 3 different scenarios in which your life may turn out in 5 years time. Be very specific in including things such as occupation, location, career, family, health, wealth, lifestyle etc.
Try not to fill out the 2nd scenario until you have completed the 1st in its entirety, and similar with the 3rd scenario.
Once you have completed all 3 fully .. you can then create a 4th!
This could be a completely new scenario or a combination of the previous 3. It is here where your true vision will become clearer.
5. Create a vision board
Visualization is a day dream with a purpose ~ Bo Bennett
A vision board is a visualization tool that consists of a collage of words and pictures that represent a goal. By creating a sacred space that displays what you want can help bring it to life, and serves as a reminder to keep taking action.
The idea behind this is when you surround yourself with images of where you would like to live, what career you would like to have, holidays destinations you are eager to visit and the type of relationship you would love to be in, your brain will subconsciously work to bring it to life.
Simply think about where you would like to be in the future and create a real life image to reflect it. Cut out photos, quotes and pictures, then arrange them in a collage. Once complete, display it somewhere in your home or work space that is visible every day.